Breaking up is never easy. It’s often something that couples try and hold off as long as possible. Why? Because it’s admitting failure. That’s why a lot of couples often try and stay together even when they know it won’t work.h Nobody ever wants to call it quits in a relationship. You invested time and effort into that relationship, so of course, you want it to work out in the end. But sometimes, no matter how hard we try, it’s just not worth it anymore. And that’s okay. Although it might seem like you’re admitting failure, you really aren’t. You’re actually smart enough to know the relationship is over.
So when is it time to break up? When do you know if you should just break up or keep trying? Here are some tips that can help you make that decision.
when your relationship feels more like a job then anything else
All relationships require hard work. But it shouldn’t feel like a job. It shouldn’t feel like it’s something you’re constantly working on. When you start feeling like you have to constantly compromise and watch what you’re saying. If you can no longer just enjoy it, then it’s time to call it quits.
when you no longer enjoy each others company
It’s pretty obvious you should break up when you no longer look forward to spending time together. You should always be happy to see the other person. When it’s no longer the case, then it’s definitely time to part ways and moves on.
you feel stuck in the relationship
A relationship should never feel like you’re in a prison. When you start feeling like you’re unable to do the things you want, or that the relationship is holding you back, then there’s a problem. Feeling like the relationship isn’t going anywhere and is preventing you from reaching your goal is definitely a sign that you should break up.
when you’re fighting more then anything else
All couples fight. In fact, it’s healthy to fight. It releases stress and allows people to say what they have been holding inside. However, when you’re constantly fighting, then there’s an issue. When you’ve reached the point that all you ever do in your relationship is a fight, then maybe it’s time to call it quits.
you no longer feel physically attracted to your partner
Physical attraction is a hugely important factor in a relationship. It’s what makes the difference between friendship and romantic relationship. Obviously, there comes a time in every relationship when there’s less intimacy. Work, stress, kids. These are all factors that can make couples have less time for intimacy. However, you shouldn’t feel like you’re no longer attracted at all to your partner. Infidelity happens when someone in the relationship doesn’t feel attracted anymore and starts looking elsewhere. Before it gets to that point, break up.
your goals are too different
Sometimes we feel like love can conquer all. But that’s not always the case. A lot of couples often stay together because they love each other, even though they want different things. However, what they don’t realize, is that with time, resentment will come. If you want kids, but your partner doesn’t, then no matter how much you love that person, you have to let them go. If you decide that you love the person more then you’re dream of becoming a parent, with time, you’ll start feeling resentment. You’ll see your friends and family having kids and although you’ll keep telling yourself it’s okay, it’s not. Or worse, your partner will eventually give in and you’ll have kids, but then they will feel resentment towards you. They’ll feel trapped. No matter how much you love that person and think that love is enough, sometimes it’s best to just call it quits. You should never have to change your goals for the other. No matter how heartbreaking the decision will be, sometimes you just have to let them go.