If you’ve never heard of “Ghost Dating” than you’re one of the lucky few who this hasn’t happened to. According to Wikipedia, Ghosting in a relationship is:
Ghosting is breaking off a relationship (often an intimate relationship) by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate. The term originated in 2011. In that decade, media reported a rise in ghosting, which has been attributed to increasing use of social media and online dating apps.
Ghosting: The New Way of Breaking Up
With the new technologies and ways of dating, ghosting in a relationship is becoming easier. The simple act of no longer answering text messages or blocking people on social media has made ghosting the new “trend” when it comes to breaking things off with a person. We all know that breaking up with a person is no easy task. It’s often awkward and not pleasant for either parties. Most of the time people just want to get it over with. That’s why a lot of people revert to “ghosting”. By no longer answering text messages and blocking the other person from social media and such, we can only hope the person will get the clear message that things are over. Although it’s probably not the most mature thing to do, it is the easy way out.
Why people who revert to “Ghosting” are not mature enough to be in a relationship to begin with
Although ghosting in a relationship to end things is often taking the easy way out, it’s not the mature thing to do. People who ghost are what some would consider “cowards”. They aren’t mature enough to tell the person that things are not working out. Instead of having a confrontation and just ending things like a grown-up, they will just cease communication all together. They master the art of ignoring. If you’re mature enough to be in a relationship, then you should be mature enough to end things. “Man up” as some would say. Put your “big boy” pants on and just call it quits. We get it, nobody likes to break up. Especially when you’re the one doing it. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s also the mature thing to do. If you have the possibility of ending things on a good term, then do it. It will show that you’re the bigger person.
Ghosting doesn’t allow closure
A huge part of being able to get through a breakup is closure. Closure is what allows both parties to move on and put the relationship to rest. It’s also when everyone in the relationship have a clear understanding of why the relationship didn’t work out. However, if you’ve been ghosted, than you can’t really know why the relationship ended. You have all these questions in your head and keep thinking if it’s something you did or said. You’re basically stuck in the unknown which is the worst place to be if you want closure.
When you’re being ghosted, you’re in a state of confusion. Not only do you not fully comprehend what’s going on, but you’re stuck with a number of unanswered questions. What did I do? Why is this happening? Was it something I said? Something I did? You have all these questions and zero answers. Having all these unanswered questions prevents you from fully understanding what’s going and get the closure you need to move on.
Don’t revert to ghosting. Yes with today’s technology ghosting is easy and avoids the difficult conversations. But in the long term, they can only hurt you and prevent you from moving on.
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